Be honest, have you ever met a guy or girl that completely blew your mind but somehow you didn't notice how they were dressed? For instance, you meet someone and every time you see that person he or she is always in a uniform of some sort IE. work, military, school etc. That person has all the potential to be your soul mate but he or she has one problem. No sense of style. This is really shallow and I bet the "right" thing to say would be, "Well its what's on the inside that counts." But come on lets be honest, people will excuse all good qualities of a person because of the lack of physical attraction. It is true that in the beginning of most relationships there may have been some kind of physical attraction between the two involved, but what about those relationships that develop without the initial attraction to one another? I have found myself overlooking a guy who could have been the "one" all because he had on a basketball jersey, Gerbeau Jeans, and Sketchers. Is the way a person dress good grounds for partner selection? Is that being shallow? Guys, you know you do it all the time. You see a girl wearing a long denim skirt and penny loafers, but you chase the girl in the Bebe dress and stilettos. Whose to say you have a better compatibility with a person who dresses better? I have come across some pretty well dressed jerks, both guys and girls. I brought this up because a friend asked me whether she should go out with this guy because she was afraid I would make fun of her for having feelings for him. (He's not exactly an expert when it comes to fashion) but that shouldn't matter, and you shouldn't look for approval from somebody if you want to pursue something or someone. I know this has happened to someone other than myself...Just ask yourself, "What really attracts me to someone?"Am I shallow?
Ok, so here's the situation, A few friends and I were having a conversation a couple days ago when one of them said,"I bet you will find more pretty lightskinned women than you would darkskinned." I said to myself, "This guy cannot possibly be that ignorant." But hey, everybody's entitled to their own opinion right? My thing is, I personally believe that no complexion is better than the other, but what do you think? It's a topic that seems to never get old while generation after generation all have the same thing to say. I asked a few random guys what they considered beauty and some of the responses were, "long hair and pretty eyes" another said, "clear skin and a nice body." My favorite was, "Having a brilliant mind and being in touch with self and nature." Not once did I hear someone mention skin tone but that doesn't mean people don't take that into consideration. For instance, dark women who process their hair believe that makes them more attractive. It has been taught to believe that harder or kinky hair is not beautiful. There is now a Cliche' that having hair like that "makes you look like a slave." Offensive, but it is taken very seriously in the African American community. Some dark women prefer lighter men because they are afraid their children will turn out darker than them. Men sometimes prefer lighter women because it often seems "exotic", especially if she's mixed. Growing up I used to hear people say all the time that I was pretty to be a "dark skinned girl" as if it were like Haley's comet to actually see a dark attractive female. But that's the way society has been conditioned; lighter is better and black is only beautiful if your hair is long and straight like a European. It's the War of the Skin Tones, which one will prevail? What about those in between skin tones? Where do they fall in this battle? Tell me what you think. I honestly want to know.